About Private Access

[alchemistdoctor]

I'm still relatively nervous about allowing people private access. Fandom imploded on me one too many times and I'm wary now. As a result I'm more likely to subscribe, get to know people, and then slowly add access when I've got comfy.

This is just a note to say that, because a lot of people have added me to their access lists and it does seem to be a relative norm here, but until I'm more used to DW and have got my bearings, I'm gonna hold out on that. Thanks for your patience!

Comments

[muccamukk]

As someone who just added you (because I marked a post as locked, then forgot to lock it, and was already talking to anyway! HI!), I totally don't worry about reciprocal adding? I have lots of people who go various ways on that. Whatever you're comfortable with.

[peoriapeoriawhereart]

Plenty of us subscribe first, access grant later.

[kore]

As someone who had a pair of e-stalkers monitoring every online public move for years and years....I feel you there.

I also think DW is set up so you don't need to feel like you're not 'friendly' if you don't give people access -- friending on LJ was super fraught because of that. IMHO it's perfectly fine to write a policy post or put it in your profile or wherever and expect people to respect that.

[lovetincture]

Just echoing the fact that there are no hard feelings here re: access or no access! I honestly don't even pay attention to that (and typically have no idea who's given me access or not). I'm an open book about pretty much everything on the internet, so I just grant access pretty freely-- but I totally respect and appreciate that other people have different boundaries. :D

[aurora_boreali]

Understandable.

[smallhobbit]

I think granting access is entirely a personal decision. I have very few locked posts - pictures of my granddaughter. and ones where I talk about my involvement in my church (Anglican, not Southern Baptist!), but I know if I had problems with anyone on those posts I would instantly deny them access.

[tozka]

Yeah, one of the things I like best about DW is that we DO have different levels of access-- we can be always public, always private, or a combination of both! :)

Also, just a head's up, but I read through some of your public entries and really liked them, so I'm adding you to my subscriptions! <3